Sitting still or being silent is often frowned upon. Many are taught to always be busy, to be doing something. As a result, I don’t think people deal with their feelings in healthy ways, especially when it comes to loneliness. Rather than dealing with the cause of a feeling we distract ourselves by running out to the store to buy something, turning on the TV, or drinking alcohol. It temporarily eases discomfort, but doesn’t deal with the underlying issue.
Below are 7 simple tips to help you overcome loneliness.
1. Go ride your bike.
It’s relaxing, fun, and a great way to see your surroundings. Plan a fun biking adventure with friends or family. For example, go on an art by bike tour, picnic in the park or take a tour of your local coffee shops.
2. Write in your journal.
Writing is a powerful tool. It can help you identify many different types of feelings, including loneliness. If you’re feeling lonely, start writing. Get your emotions out on paper and start asking yourself how you can create a feeling of connection in your life. Focus on the important. Use it to write down your ideas, feelings and action items to foster reflection and make your life better.
3. Cook a real meal.
Cooking a good meal can be a meditative experience. It’s a great opportunity to mull over thoughts and lose yourself in a recipe. Cooking a real meal is also a perfect excuse to find a dinner date. Making dinner for a friend or loved one is the perfect way to create a meaningful connection. Eating with a friend is more fun. You’re more likely to eat slower and less. Do you cook real meals regularly? If not, make that part of your routine.
4. Take photographs.
Taking photos is a way to notice the details of life. Whenever I walk around with my camera and take photos I get into a zone. I notice the little things, like the morning dew on flowers or a beautiful sunset. The world is alive with beauty and has so much to offer. We just have to slow down long enough to notice. If you own a camera, take it everywhere and start taking photos. If you don’t own a camera try sketching in your journal.
5. Read a good book.
Go to your library and pick up a good book. Reading is a great way to escape into another world or glean creative ideas for your latest project. It’s a frugal way to educate yourself, be inspired and a healthy way to use your time.
6. Be still and do nothing.
Supposedly being “busy” is a sign of success in this culture. I’m not sure that’s true. Why are we all in such a hurry? Do we really create beautiful art if we we’re rushing from place to place? And if everyone is so busy, how do we create meaningful connections with others?
Slow down, take your time. Rushing from place to place can be counterproductive. Being busy can sometimes erode our sense of purpose causing us to feel undervalued and lonely. Set aside 10 minutes a day for meditation. If you have over-committed yourself to meetings or projects, consider re-prioritizing what’s important to you.
7. Set-up a coffee or tea date with a friend.
Get together with new friends for coffee and dinner dates. It’s a great way to connect with others and get out of apartment.