While it’s true that no one’s perfect and you will make mistakes at some point, it’s not fair to get blamed for everything. If someone is doing so, then a flood of negative consequences will ensue. Bitterness, anger and an increase in arguments can end up affecting either your performance or how you conduct yourself over time, which is not healthy. For instance, “If I never get it right, why try?” might be the prevailing sentiment. Thankfully, there are not only reasons to try, but ways to deal with it in a civil manner.
Step 1 of 4 : Realize that it’s not all your fault.
The source of blame lies in the mentality and personal makeup of the person doing the blaming, not in the merits of your actions. This is easier said than done sometimes, especially if the person who blames you for everything is someone you look up to or respect. Remember, however, that it’s not about you, it’s about the person placing the incessant blame.
Step 2 of 4 : Set realistic expectations.
The doling of fair and equal treatment is not the norm with people who blame you for everything. Others may not do as good at a job as you, yet they seem to avoid scrutiny. You most likely won’t remedy this by simply doing better. Again, the problem is with him, not you. The sooner you realize this, the sooner you will learn to dismiss the hurtful blame.
Step 3 of 4 : Keep contact with the blaming person or persons to a minimum.
Chances are, it’s impossible to cut him off completely, as is the case with a coworker or family member, but take yourself out of the crossfire as much as possible. If you must contact the person after the completion of a task, as is the case with the former, make a commitment to avoid engaging the person when she serves up the inevitable blame that you know is coming.
Step 4 of 4 : Surround yourself with good people.
If contact with those who blame you for everything is unavoidable, seek solace with positive people who build you up and give you healthy advice. This works better than finding solitary hobbies such as reading or walking. While they’re not inherently bad, nothing is better for counteracting the negative mental impact of getting blamed than constant encouragement.