How to Confront the Person Who Talked Behind Your Back?

You’ve heard that someone has been spreading rumors about you, and it’s beginning to make you look bad. Need help controlling this wildfire consuming your reputation? Are you looking for a way to tell that nasty person to stop in the most effective manner?1. Approach them confidently.

2. Pull them aside, and ask if you may speak with them calmly. If you start off angrily, they will meet you at the same level, and nothing will be transmitted through the angry yelling.

3. Avoid raising your voices at each other. It may make you feel better at the time, but staying calm will allow you to hold your ground in any argument and you will feel better afterwards.

4. Ask why they said what they said. If they deny saying it, tell them how you know what they said. If someone told you about it, tell them who told you and exactly what they told you. If that person wants to remain anonymous, try asking that person who else knows and say you heard it from them instead (someone who would not mind you using their name). If they continue to deny it, they are not worth your time. If they are going to state opinions about anything and not own up to them, then you’ve already proved that you are a stronger person than they are.

5. Avoid them completely and do not be in touch with the person through any means. People spreading rumours have inferiority complex which makes them bitch about others. Today it will be you, tomorrow someone else. Staying away from them completely is advisable.

6. Ask them (politely) to stop spreading rumors, or you will involve an authority figure.


  • Make sure to let them know what they said hurt you, and you’d like them to stop.
  • Maintain your composure, avoid swearing, stuttering, and fidgeting.
  • Before you confront them, ensure that what was supposedly said was actually said. Nothing looks worse than when you falsely accuse someone of ruining your name when in fact, they haven’t done anything.
  • Look them in the eye.
  • Avoiding the person who is spreading the rumour is the only way.

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