Whether it’s a crush who said no, a breakup of a long-term relationship, a fight/argument between good friends, or even a physical injury, disappointments in love/friendship are a part of life, and moving past them is very important.
- Make sure that you have listed priorities of what you expect in your relationship. If the main core is not jeopardized and your disappointment does not touch the core of what you are looking really for, move on and let go of your disappointment.
- Know that you might be a part in that disappointment. You need to analyze what lead to that disappointment.
- Communicating, being honest with each other and not to take things personally are essentials to help a relationship flourish and work.
- Know that disappointment can lead to anger and you should avoid that. Because anger can cause lots of harm to you, your partner and your kids if you have any. A better way is to talk it out with your partner, discussing what led to the whole situation and what’s the best way to deal with it.
- When you communicate disappointment, do not attack, rather explain the situation, the why, how and what made you disappointed. Attacking or blaming your partner makes you lose the logic of explanations and your partner/friend will feel wrongly accused.
- If you need time, take it. Space is very important in a relationship.
- Tell yourself that it is not the end of the world if it does not work with that friend or that partner and out there, there must be something meant to be for you. Believe in this.
- If someone physically hurt you, you need to be firm about this so that this never happens again. Normal people probably feel really bad if they did physically hurt somebody and would never do that again. However, if that is repeated, don’t continue in that relationship. No second chances.