1. Try to figure out why they are avoiding you. Attempt to understand the problem from their point of view.
2. If you have no idea why they have suddenly stopped talking to you, ask them nicely.
Tell them that you don’t understand why they aren’t talking to you, and that you would like to work past the problem. If they won’t reply to you in person, try sending them a Facebook message, email or text. Don’t send all three though – you don’t want to grovel, especially when you have no idea what is going on.
You could try calling them on the phone, but be aware that if they ignore you in person, they probably won’t pick up the phone for you. With a written message, they will be able to read it without acknowledging you, and will understand that you don’t understand the problem.
If you do know the reason that they are mad, make sure you let them know that you are sorry. If you aren’t sorry, at least let them know that you understand the issue and that you would like to work things out.
4. Make it clear that you are willing to talk about the issue and resolve your friendships when they are.
5. Give them space.
If they are mad at you, they will not want you to be constantly in their face. Also, most people use the silent treatment to punish someone for something they have done. If you show that you are sorry but not devastated by the silent treatment, it will not last for long.
6. After awhile, try to make small talk. Start by saying, “Hi” or, “Hey”.
If you say it nicely and naturally enough, they may forget that they are supposed to be ignoring you and respond. Play it cool when, and if, they respond – making a big deal out of can prolong the experience.
7. Don’t send other people to deliver messages.
That will make them look bad. It’s between you and the other person. No one else.