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How To Improve Your Bad Habits & Develop Healthier Habits?

To develop healthier habits you must improve on your bad habits. Bad eating habits, or lack of exercise can revolt into bad health. Also just cutting out bad habits in your daily life, to improve your mental health is important as well. Bad habits can have it’s way of effecting your entire life. Sometimes we just get lazy, and that can contribute to bad habits. Having a set plan and following through it as a routine can help break bad habits. That way you can habituate healthy habits.

I think one way to help eliminate bad habits, is giving yourself rewards. However, finding the motivation and keeping it can help you develop better habits into your daily life.

1. Develop better eating habits.

Eat healthier foods and get a balanced nutrition into your diet. This is so difficult, because sometimes finding healthy foods to satisfy our taste buds can be difficult. Don’t eat foods high in saturated fats. I’ve heard that eating foods high in saturated fats convince your body to eat more. Developing healthy eating habits takes time. Try to substitute bad eating habits, with better ones. However, still allow yourself the occasional snacks, just keep them limited. Or when you do eat something that isn’t exactly healthy, you compliment it with foods that have good sources of proteins, vitamins and antioxidants in them.

2. Welcome daily exercise into your life.

Making a habit of exercising is one of the better ways to develop healthier habits. It’s not just about losing weight, or getting into better shape. It can just help you develop a better mindset. Working out is extremely healthy for your entire body. Make exercise a routine, not just a phase. You don’t have to do it everyday, but it should be weekly.

3. Change your routines.

The same routines can often cause bad habits. Doing the exact same thing can trigger your subconscious into the exact same scenarios. Whether it’s eating, lack of exercise, or just the way you manage your time. Too much of one thing can be bad. Being able to adapt to new routines will help you embrace new habits, and break your old habits. It will take an adjustment and willingness to do these things.

4. Eliminate alcohol use.

Drinking a lot of alcohol is one of the better ways to cause bad habits in your daily life. Alcohol in general is bad for your mental stability. Alcohol is often linked to depression, which can explain a lot of bad habits a person obtains in their life. Cut back on usage of alcohol, and give yourself specific rules when drinking it frequently. If you can’t manage your drinking, then you have a problem. Go to AA and don’t be afraid to get the help needed.

5. Bring more joy and pleasure into your life.

Just simply enjoying life more can allow you to feel more motivated to improve your bad habits. A good mindset is obviously needed if you’re going to break bad habits and develop healthier ones. So to do that, take time to experience new things or try to do things you enjoy. If your bad habits are the things you enjoy, then try new things. Find other ways you can enjoy yourself, that aren’t becoming bad habits. For example, bad habits might be something as simple as watching too much TV. It’s easy for something to become a bad habit, even if it’s not extremely harmful to begin with. Try picking up a book instead. It’s not healthy to be so involved into one, or two things all the time.

6. Make a list of the daily things to improve on and give yourself set rules to follow.

Make a list of your bad habits, and then develop goals to improve on. It’s good to make yourself a schedule to follow. It’s easier when you have a set plan, and rules you give yourself. Keeping your bad habits organized, and making a blueprint on improving will help you out. Sometimes one has so many bad habits, it’s hard to keep track of them. Develop a methodical approach. Let there be self rewards you give yourself, that gives yourself satisfaction when breaking through on your bad habits and developing better ones.

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How To Deal With People Who Take Advantage Of You?

I’m a big fan of giving. It’s one of the greatest joys in life.

But there comes a time when you give to the point where certain people begin to see that (or see from the get go) and take advantage of your generosity accordingly.

I think there’s one person like that in every social group. Common adjectives to describe this person range from moocher to leecher to stingy.

This is the person who always asks you to pick up the tab, who conveniently “forgets” their wallet, who gives you a sob story to further guilt you into giving them more as well.

By far the most powerful weapon in this person’s arsenal is guilt as its use is one of the easiest ways to manipulate somebody.

Before I go any further, let me just say I have no problem with helping a friend in need. If they’re having tough times, take them out. Buy them dinner.

Here’s where it starts to get bad.
When it becomes HABIT.

And you find it takes some time before you become fully consciously aware of it.

Once you let it get to habit, you’re in a catch 22.

You want to confront the person, but can’t seem to muster up the courage out of fear of losing the friendship. If you do, the person who takes advantage of your generosity has a slew of counter arguments ranging from guilt tripping to shaming in terms of accusing you of not sharing your good fortune, of questioning whether or not you truly are a friend to them. They’ll make you feel guilty for all the rewards you received for your hard work and will feel entitled to it. They’ll flip the tables and accuse YOU of all people, of being stingy.

So what do you do now?

First thing is to look back at the beginning.

If the person was manipulative from the get go but you didn’t realize it until now looking back, and somehow he/she became your “friend”, cut it off. You’re better off without them as they will only hold you back in life.

BUT, if that person wasn’t like that before, and just came into hard times, there’s still hope.

The thing is – this habit of you giving to them continuously has become habit – FOR THEM.

They EXPECT you to give to them.

They’ve become CONDITIONED to receiving from you because you do it all the time.

They’ve developed an unhealthy addiction of always receiving, but never giving.

Here’s what you have to realize.

By constantly giving to them, you’ve enabled their habit of dependency on others.

You need to explain to them that it’s not good for them, that every time you give and fulfill their requests, it reinforces the fact that they can’t do anything themselves.

This is a version of the old adage of how it’s better to teach a man to fish instead of giving him a fish everyday.

Instead of giving your friend “fish”, give him help on how he can “fish” for himself.

But if he refuses to take any action to “fish” for himself and seems content to always take advantage of others to meet his needs and wants, you shouldn’t feel the slightest bit guilty for not caving into his requests.

You have NO OBLIGATION to give to those who refuse to sow themselves.

They need to learn to sow themselves.

Tell them this and you’ll see they have nothing in their arsenal to rebut with because they know it’s true.

Knowing that, they will become desperate and throw a last hail mary pass.

They’ll tell you to give you them one last fish and that’s it. No more. They won’t ask you for anything else.

But that’s not how life works.

You don’t ask for one last cigarette to smoke if you want to quit.

You start quitting right then and there.

There’s absolutely nothing wrong with giving but we live in a world where there are those who will take advantage of our good will, to the point where it becomes very harmful not only to you but to them as well.

Give because you want to.

Give to help people help themselves.

And you will be giving them one of the greatest gifts of all, even if they don’t realize it at first.

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